Why I Ruin Therapy
Therapy isn’t broken because clinicians aren’t caring or skilled. It’s broken because we’re stuck recycling old frameworks that over-focus on diagnosis, ignore the sensory body, and leave family systems theory gathering dust. “Ruining” therapy means refusing to settle for surface-level interventions and jargon-filled trainings that don’t translate to real life.
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Most therapists have never been taught to recognize the role of neurodiversity or sensory processing differences in their work. The big lightbulb moment comes when you realize that sensory needs and differences aren’t just “special topics”. They’re core to how clients experience, communicate, and get stuck (or unstuck) in therapy. Suddenly, what seemed like resistance, “symptoms,” or family drama takes on new meaning: patterns and struggles aren’t just mental or emotional, they’re sensory and embodied. Therapists consistently tell me that after this shift, they see their clients, and themselves, with new eyes.
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My goal isn’t to have you toss out everything you know. Good therapy is already happening in so many rooms. But what if you had a whole new lens to bring to the work? What if you could offer clients new language, new experiences, and new ways to make sense of themselves? Ways that go beyond labels and dig into what actually heals? Therapists leave my trainings feeling energized and excited, with practical tools that open up new doors for growth. It’s not about replacing your expertise; it’s about expanding it.
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One of the biggest myths in our field is that diagnosis equals real, meaningful understanding. I’m here to ruin that idea. Diagnoses are not “problems” in and of themselves. They’re just signposts, often pointing to undiagnosed neurodivergence, maladaptive family patterns, or the impact of trauma.
Let’s get honest- social media hasn’t made “everyone” neurodivergent, despite what the viral self-diagnosis culture might suggest. What it has done is open the door for more people to ask questions and seek answers about their experiences, sometimes for the first time in their lives. Not everyone is neurodivergent. But many people who walk into a therapy office are, and the profession needs to do better at recognizing and supporting them, instead of clinging to rigid labels.
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You can always start again. Nothing is that serious. Real change doesn’t come from huge breakthroughs or some therapist’s magic words. It’s about the baby steps you take, over and over, until things shift for good.
We’re always part of the problems we experience, which means we have power to change things, if we’re willing to look at where we’re contributing. That’s where understanding, reframing, and rerouting come in. And because language shapes how we experience our lives (and relationships), I’ll help you learn how to actually talk about what’s going on, clearly, honestly, and in a way that gets you and your clients unstuck.
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I know not everyone thinks therapy needs “ruining”, and that’s fine. If you love the status quo, keep doing what works for you. This work is for therapists and organizations who are genuinely open to new ideas, who want to push the field forward, and who aren’t afraid to experiment with new methods and language. I don’t believe in convincing skeptics. I’d rather spend my energy with those ready to rethink, rebuild, and try something different. If that’s you, welcome. If not, I’ll be here when you’re ready.
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The best feedback I get isn’t just about a new tool or technique, it’s about therapists seeing everything differently. They tell me this approach helps them make sense of themselves, their families, and their clients on a deeper level. It gives them language for what’s really happening in the room, and a practical way to do something about it. The most common reaction?
“Everyone needs to know this.”
That’s why I do this work. My goal is to shake things up so you and your clients can actually experience real change. The more therapists and organizations I can “ruin,” the better the field gets.
